So I guess it makes sense to make this Tip #13. Not always looked upon in a favorable light, that number thirteen. Our topic: What happens if you need to cancel your wedding ceremony?
I suppose this is not a completely alien concept, judging by the wedding insurance online sites which have sprung up recently--namely wedsafe.com--offering coverage against anything from severe weather to illness of a family member.
The one wedding I've played, or in fact DIDN'T play, was canceled due to...cold feet. That's gotta be the worst reason on the list. For everyone involved. I was asked to play with a pianist for the wedding of a close family friend in North Carolina. Still at Manhattan School of Music at the time, the wedding was taking place shortly after our exam period, so I literally had not found the time to book my plane ticket. Procrastination proved to work in my favor, because the weekend before the wedding, the bride decided she just couldn't do it.
The bride happened to be the daughter of one of my mom's oldest friends and her intended was her college beau--they had been together nearly six years by the time they were planning these nuptials. The wedding was the culmination of a year of planning, including numerous engagement parties, bridal showers and the groom's extended family traveling twenty hours from India. The bride and groom had a house full of newly-acquired china, crystal and silver and 250 guests planning to watch them exchange eternal vows before sitting down to a salmon-or-filet dinner.
And then a week before the big day, the bride backed out. Couldn't do it. Realized it was all wrong somehow. I don't know how it transpired, but on Monday I got a call from my mother: don't buy that last-minute plane ticket after all. Apparently the bride's mother and maid of honor phoned all 250 guests to break the bad news. I always wondered if they returned the wedding gifts.
Wedding Tip #13: Discuss with your vendors and wedding site what will happen if you have to cancel or postpone your event. Be sure you understand each vendor's payment policy in the event of cancellation.
Until the next wedding,
Alice Hamlet, Director
www.tenstringsmusicstudio.com
Thursday, May 8, 2008
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2 comments:
man this is very painful thing. This happens often now a days. But cancelling your wedding is really bad thing .
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Oh, that is something I wouldn't even consider happening! When I got engaged, I made sure that it is what I truly want, and he felt the same way. I wouldn't even image canceling in the worst weather. It has to be harder to cancel a reception with a live Chicago Wedding Band than with a regular DJ. That's just a horrible thing to think about!
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